Converge: A blended family

by Gary Rohrmayer, Converge MidAmerica executive minister
Converge: A blended family

It has been said that denominations, church movements and churches are like families, but in reality they are more like blended families.

Today blended families now make up more than half the families in America. It is very rare today for an extended family not to have some blended family members.

According to Cyberparent.com these are some of the characteristics of blended families:

A Blended Family Is Appealing: A blended family is often large. It offers diverse perspectives. It tends to be fun and exciting. It is a place where acceptance and love is extended freely.

A Blended Family Is Not Perfect: A blended family can be frustrating. It can be challenging on all fronts, and at times there is often conflicted feeling just below the surface.

Blended Families Are Ever-Changing: The nuclear makeup of the blended family is always changing because family members come and go all the time. Children are gone to stay with other family members on weekends, during different times of the week, for vacations and also for summer breaks.

Blended Families Are Here to Stay: 2100 blended families are formed every day in the America. Numbers will continue to rise in the future as families experience the loss of a loved one or the end of a marriage through divorce. Many parents will remarry, creating more blended families. 

Converge is like a blended family.

We Are Appealing: We are getting larger every day through starting new churches and affiliation of established churches, which are starting to join us at an accelerated rate. We are filled with great diversity, embracing a host of cultural perspectives centered on a strong affirmation of faith and a unifying mission. Our gatherings are often filled with exciting worship and fun interactions. Our understanding, acceptance and love for each other is growing every year.

We Are Not Perfect: At times we have frustrated others and others have frustrated us. At times relationships have been stretched, expectations have not been met and misunderstandings occurred. It is in these times that forgiveness is sought, is granted and relationships are renewed. The potential for theological and missional tension to occur is greater than we realized, but when we keep the main thing the main thing, unity is experienced. 

We Are Ever Changing: Like blended families, churches come in and go out all the time. New churches are planted and older churches close. Churches join us and churches leave us. Leaders come and go.  New leaders are raised up and older leaders retire and move on. Yet God is faithful to provide leaders for our churches and workers for the harvest.

We Are Here to Stay: Since 1852 we have been doing ministry in Illinois. Over 163 years ago we were born out of mission and continue to live that mission for the glory of God. God’s hand has been upon us and his favor has powerfully sustained us. We are not going away until the Lord returns and his mission through us is complete. I know that one of my jobs is to see this mission passed on successfully to the next generation, just as all my predecessors have done before me.

A blended family might mean some changes, some conflicts, some challenges and some compromises, but it also means more people to love and more people to love you.  

Just like blended families, a partnership with Converge can be stretching, sanctifying but ultimately is satisfying as pastors, leaders and churches work together to see the mission of God advanced and the glory of God revealed.

When we are better together, we are fulfilling the prayer Jesus prayed for the church:

“I do not ask for these only, but also for those who will believe in me through their word, that they may all be one, just as you, Father, are in me, and I in you, that they also may be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me. The glory that you have given me I have given to them, that they may be one even as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may become perfectly one, so that the world may know that you sent me and loved them even as you loved me” (John 17:20-23).

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