Supporting Ministry Wives

Kari Capaldo

Converge Heartland Women's Lead Team Coordinator

  • Church & pastoral health
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  • Church planting & multiplication

We sat there. No plan. No agenda. No expectations, just the six of us, giddy about finally being together in person, but not sure what the weekend would hold.

Turns out, being refreshed and renewed with hikes in the woods, rolling down a hill, lying in an open field singing and praying, sitting for hours in front of a fire, listening to worship music, coloring, playing games, laughing hard, eating, swinging, reading scripture and interceding on behalf of each other was just what God had planned for us all.

Pastor's wives. An invaluable role, but often, an anonymous title. For the last two years, our small group of pastors' wives has been meeting over zoom, where we are seen, known, heard, unconditionally loved, challenged, encouraged, and allowed to share our deepest pains and joys. We are free to be weak, let our guards down, and ask for help.

After being in ministry for 25 years, serving for ten years in Russia, being a pastor's wife and on staff at a church in Alaska for several years, being a pastor's wife in South Dakota, now being the wife of the District Executive Minister for the Heartland District, I have felt the need in my own life for healthy relationships with women who are in similar roles. I also know that many other pastor's wives desire the same kind of connection. God created us for life together. I have found this in my small group of women who bring me to the throne of grace, asking that I "be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy" (Colossians 1:11 ESV ), as I do the same for them.

 We need each other. If you find that you are in a similar place and would like to be part of a small group of Converge Pastor’s wives, please feel free to contact me at

Kari Capaldo , Converge Heartland Women's Lead Team Coordinator

Church Planter and Missionary in Russia and Alaska

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